Jan 09

Why I’ve been silent

I’ve been getting emails the past few months asking me why I rarely blog any more.  Some of it was that I got so burnt out on politics that I just shut down. Some of it, is that I won’t want to put just anything on my blog. You can follow me on Friendfeed and see some of the content there. Logic would dictate that I figure out this MediaRSS plugin so that I can import my FF content to here. But the main reason I no longer blog is financial.

Meaning: I have no money.

The stress of constantly being behind in bills, of trying to keep on top of billing has turned me away from writing.  Anything I write will be shot through with how broke I am and I do not want to have that be the focus of my blog. But the truth is that due to a dominio effect that started in Spring of 2007, there’s a very good chance of my family being homeless in the coming months.

We spend most of our money on paying late bills and their fees, but we’re also behind on our mortgage now. Having that over our heads has made the effort to get out and enjoy life a little hard. Add in the IRS funds we owe for the past 2 years, it becomes a little suffocating to try to be fun.

We don’t have credit card debt, a car payment or anything like that.  We just owe on our house, the IRS taxes and property taxes.  When we purchased our home, we got a decent rate, put down 20% on a home that was underpriced for the market.  Even now that our home’s value has dropped a bit, we’re still not upside-down on our mortgage.  What hurts a bit more, is that even if we were renting, we’d still be in the same boat, but propbably would have been evicted by now. We have no place to go if we lose our house. Nowhere.  Many people are lucky enough to have friends and/or family willing or able to help them in dire times.  Neither of us can claim that. Nevertheless, the domino that fell in Spring 2007 has created a cacophony of sound we can no longer ignore.

As you know, I work for my husband–our small company of two. While there’s been some industry upheaval, there hasn’t been enough to explain why we went from working 20 – 30 sites a month down to about 10.  Even at 10 sites a month, assuming they’re new sites, that’s still barely scraping by. Even if I were lucky enough to find a job outside the home, we’d need childcare for the kids and another car, so my husband can continue his company he started in 1995.

We’re trying. We’re trying so hard to give our kids a good life. We don’t spoil them, but I enjoy taking them to the zoo, botanical gardens and museums.  I’ve given up my memberships to the Arboretum and Natural History museum. Instead opting for the museums free days and saving for Arboretum or Descanso Garden trips.  Our zoo membership ends soon, so that twice monthly visit will end too as it’s either than or end the hosting on our business website. They’re growing so big, so fast that I can’t afford to get them clothes that fit properly. That makes me so sad.

It’s so frustrating to see all the work you’ve done so much to create topple. I’ve been here before and weathered it, but then I was single and childless. I didn’t have any responsibilities except to myself.  I do not find solace in knowing that I’m not alone in this experience, that other families in this country are feeling the same effects.  We can all hope for the best and hope that it comes sooner rather than later. That some solution presents itself as soon as possible. Otherwise, this could be the end of my blog as it stands.

Thank you.

Nov 08

Bitches Gone Wild: The Motrin Drama

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Can you say stupid with a slice of WTF?

Last night, my Twitter started going off with angry tweets regarding an ad on the Motrin website.  I can’t show you the ad because it’s been pulled.  Let me describe it:

It was a way too long video with a voiceover of some whiny mom complaining about something.  The words she was saying were being tossed acrossed the screen in what was probably some misdirected attempt at hipness.  After I woke from a nap, the woman was still droning on and she started talking about how she uses a carrier (which somehow is painful)  to make her look like an “official mommy”.

Let the shitstorm begin.

All day long, as I checked into various social media sites, women with too much time on their hands were writing overwrought posts talking about the ad was ‘insulting’.  To whom, was unclear.  Some moms were offended by it because they were adoptive parents.  Some because their kids were older.  Some because they never use(d) a carrier with their babies.  Others because they know that if worn right a carrier isn’t painful at all. But they were insulted and seeking vengeance.


Mommy bloggers you won the internets today.  Your prize?

Later this afternoon, childless people, men and those who have lives walked into this dust up trying to figure out the problem with the ad.  Most of them realized quickly that the ad wasn’t anything to get upset about and moved on with their lives.  Sadly, the mommy bloggers didn’t. They were making videos y’all.  Videos.


A few hours ago, the Motrin website went down.  Crazed mommy bloggers cyber-high-fived one another.  That’ll show Motrin.  Mess with us and our faux outrage.

Well, Motrin finally responded and was a lot nicer than I would have been if I were doing the PR for the company:

We certainly did not mean to offend moms through our advertising. Instead, we had intended to demonstrate genuine sympathy and appreciation for all that parents do for their babies. We believe deeply that moms know best and we sincerely apologize for disappointing you. Please know that we take your feedback seriously and will take swift action with regard to this ad. We are in process of removing it from our website. It will take longer, unfortunately, for it to be removed from magazine print as it is currently on newstands and in distribution.


Kathy Widmer
VP of Marketing – Pain, Pediatrics, GI, Specialty
McNeil Consumer Healthcare

So now there’s even more vindication, but even worse, the masturbatory “See what Social Media can do?” posts are going up.  It’s like a Daisy chain gone bad.  And this is why I don’t call myself a mommy blogger.  This is why I try to stay away from mom blogs.  This is why some people shouldn’t be allowed to use a fucking computer.

I will say that I am extremely jealous at the swift and angry reaction of these women.  Just think of what they could do if they organized to help the poverty-stricken or cure real injustices in the world.  I wish everything in my life was so perfect that I would have the luxury to get all agitated over a damn ad.

Nov 08

Musings on last night’s election

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am not going to try to write a long intellectual entry on what happened last night. I can only post snapshots on we witnessed.  My feelings are still too raw.  I woke up this morning, like in 2000 and 2004, with a knot in my stomach; expecting a different outcome.  I rushed to grab my morning paper to make sure it was all real.  That today wasn’t Election Day and I just dreamt that Sen. Obama had won over 330 Electoral Votes.

It was real.

It did happen.

Senator Barack Obama is our President-Elect.

My 5 year old, who has been an Obama fan since last Spring, kept asking me this morning, “Did Obama really win?”  Through tears, I said “Yes. Yes he did.”


I spoke to some of my older family members last night.  The constant refrain was, “That young man did it.  He ran a great campaign and didn’t let anyone tear him down.  I never thought I’d live to see this day.” They reminisced on growing up in segregated towns in the South and Midwest.  One 92 year old cousin, in Arkansas wept as he talked about he had to keep his head down, just so he would stay out of trouble, “Today, I hold my head high, like Obama did throughout his campaign.”  I cried.


Sen. McCain’s concession speech, was the most classy concession speech I think I’ve ever witnessed.  Even though from July on he ran the exact same campaign Sen. Clinton did, his concession speech was exactly the one she should have given in June.


The first black President won this election without the Self-Appointed Godfathers of Blackness.  We didn’t have to see Rev. Jesse Jackson or Rev. Al Sharpton pontificating on our TVs last night for the first time in my lifetime. Rev. Jackson was shown, tears streaming down his face, as he stood with thousands in Grant Park.


Scholars will study the Obama campaign forever.  Not just political scholars, but in business classes, PR majors, technological studies.  Every tool out there was used, even abused if my text messages and emails are any indication. The branding was simple and consistent, from slogan to font, to color.  The business acumen of where and how to raise and spend money, would make many major corporations jealous.


Social media came into its own this election cycle. Twitter broke most stories before even blogs had a chance to write up something.  This election cycle belonged to black bloggers.  It seemed that they alone were taking advantage of social media tools, not just to announce new posts, but to organize GOTV and appearnces.  It was a simple way for them to stay in contact with their readers outside the blog and get more on-the-ground reporting from around the country.


I still haven’t received my shirts from the Obama-Biden campaign. I’m sad.


The ground campaign of Obama’s was probably the best of any campaign ever.  Speaking to friends who worked for the campaign and speaking to people who volunteered from the campaign, they all said the same thing, “This is the first election where people from DC who had never stepped foot in my town, didn’t come in to tell us how it is. They gave us ownership and listened.”


A few weeks ago, Republicans started whining about how Democrats shouldn’t have a majority because that would be dangerous for the country.  All of a sudden they despise the idea of one party controll the Administrative and Legislative branches of government.  I’m still trying to find where they were so distraught about this in 2000 and 2004.  It’s a disengenious arguement and insulting to my intelligence.  Republicans need not fear. Democrats do not govern to abuse power.  A Democratic majority will have it’s hands full rolling back and repairing the damage of the last 8 years.


Best quote of the night, after the election was called for Sen. Obama: “Meanwhile, in D.C., two guys named George and Dick have placed the single largest order for industrial strength paper shredders that Office Depot has ever had to fulfill.”


When I had heard that Fox News (!) had called Ohio for Sen. Obama, I thought I was going to faint.  When I saw that he had also won Florida, I had to sit down.  Thank you to both states.


I can only hope that we never have to hear or see the hatefulness that is Gov. Sarah Palin.


And finally, we’ll never learn what Republican voters liked about Sen. McCain.  It’s a testament to spin, that when asked the most intelligent offering was the tired, “Obama’s a socialist/radical/communist/Muslim”.  That never explained McCain’s appeal.

Jun 08

You’ve made me dumb

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Teh stoopid is strong with this one.

May 08

Oh, it’s on muthafucka!

I’ve been having some serious issues with my blog and an “unresponsive script error”.  That’s why I haven’t been posting as much.  Well…drumroll…I not only figured out the problem, but I also fixed.  Be ready for a flood of my most inane thoughts.

May 08

Clinton: White people love me!

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This is where Clinton’s dog foghorn to racist whites in Ky and W. Va. is headed. It’s a shame that the Clinton’s campaign is more than willing to revisit their race baiting-tactics of December and January with this. Especially since they are flat out lying about her white support. It’s sad to think that a Democrat feels it’s okay to implement a Southern strategy to win votes in a race she’s already lost.

What makes this all even more laughable are the blogging Clinton supporters who contort their logic to justify anything. Remember that for the past few months, we’ve been told by these people that Obama’s big wins in Idaho, Utah, Mississippi and Kansas don’t mean anything. Despite the hundreds of thousands of people who came out to vote for the Democrats vs. the few thousand that voted for the GOP candidates, we were told that “there was no way those states are voting for a Democrat in November.” Why? Oh, the reasons change and facts are fudged, but they say, “Those states haven’t voted for a Democratic president in ### years.” Needless to say, I was shocked to see that Jerome Armstrong, among other Clinton-supporting bloggers pushing that W. Va is in play because they gave Kennedy the nod in 1960.



You read that right. W. Va. hasn’t voted for a Democratic president in 48 years and that means it’s great for Clinton’s chances in Nov., but the states that Obama has won, but haven’t voted for a Democratic president in 20, 30, or 40 years are not in play.

The stupid is strong in this one.

Feb 08

Media fairness?

Gag me.  I just read a post from Wolf Blitzer who seems suddenly overly concerned about media fairness in regards to candidate time.

With Ralph Nader now in the presidential race, there’s a serious question those of us in the news media have to ask: How much air time do we give him?

Are you serious Wolf?  How much time?  How about none?  None would have been good.  My response I posted, but probably won’t get out of “awaiting moderation”:

How about giving him as much air time as you give Rep. Ron Paul or Mike Gravel? Or as much time as you gave Rep. Kucinich, Rep. Hunter and Sen. Dodd or Sen. Biden? Already, the media has decided to collectively ignore Gov. Huckabee, yet for whatever reason, you’ll still paying attention to Sen. Clinton, who’s won only 3 more states than Huckabee did.

Why are you pretending to care about fairness?

This is a station that decided to eleminate half the Democratic candidates that were still running from debates after the middle of January.  We’re supposed to think they care about fairness?  Remember that they let Giuliani stay on the debates, while they tried to kick Ron Paul off?  Despite the fact that Paul had raised more money and got more votes than Giuliani did.

And now we have a guy who’s running for president for the 5th time.  In 2004, he got a little over 436K votes out of 122M votes casts, in 2000 he got 1.3M votes.  This is a viable candidate?  I can guarantee that if I decided to run for president today, I won’t have 15 minutes with Tim Russert to announce.  I can also guarantee that if I decided to run for president today I could probably get more than 436K votes.

I get that CNN gives into nutter egomaniacs, I do.  After all this is a station that not only has egomaniacs, but they’re racists too (and note, I’m not even going to mention the gambling drunks they have). But don’t insult my intelligence and pretend that you care about fairness in the media.  That’s a stinkin’ load.

Feb 08

MSNBC = Free Ads for Clinton Network

FirstRead has done it again. They’ve posted another Clinton ad with transcript. That makes for the 3rd one this week. Please note that they have not posted video or transcripts for Obama, Huckabee or McCain, even though ads for those three candidates are available on their sites and YouTube.

UPDATE:  FirstRead finally posted an Obama ad.   Go on over and see it.  It’s regarding Clinton’s desperate plea for more free publicity debates.  Hey, while you’re at it, why don’t you go on and see all the wonderfully racists comments MSNBC also approved. Color me shocked.

Now, all they have to do is just post Obama’s other two ads, and the ones from McCain and Huckabee then maybe they’ll make back some bits of your credibility.  Or maybe they  can just gush some more over their Valentine’s Day gifts from Clinton.

Jan 08

CNN Political Ticker: Awaiting moderation

I guess I’m officially banned from commenting on CNNs Political Ticker blog.  Not one of my 27 comments from the last week have been posted.  They’re all awaiting moderation.  I have no idea why.  I don’t cuss, don’t insult other posters and I’m not disruptive.  I’ll CNN out on their lameass reporting, but it’s always on topic.

Want an example?  Let’s take their recent post McCain: Chuck Norris might have to deal with my mom.  It’s another bit of fluffery from Political Tracker where they report that Norris said that McCain was too old to be president.  If you click the link you’ll see posts that range all over the place, from who started Viet Nam to Bill Clinton’s budget surplus.

My first comment was the 5th one posted and it says:



January 21, 2008 11:38 pm ET
Your comment is awaiting moderation.Great…we have the bizarro campaign where Team Clinton is going for a 3rd term and McCain wants to send in his mommy. I won’t even touch the ageist comments Team Chuckabee. Can the adults finish out the campaign now, children?

I noticed that more comments were approved after that comment. 7 more comments were approved after that.  So I posted again:


January 22, 2008 12:42 am ET
Your comment is awaiting moderation.Why are my comments always “awaiting moderation”? 6 Comments were approved after mine. If this one doesn’t get posted, that will make it was 55 comments CNN never approved? I wonder if I used some blatant lies, racism or campaign talking points if my posts would get approved faster.

Well, it’s still “awaiting moderation” and 9 more comments (as of now) have been posted.  So what gives?  I don’t think I said anything horrible.  Maybe CNN just hates me.

Jan 08

Things you didn’t know about me

Well, I got tagged. Flippin’ Wonderfully Awesome Grandy tagged me with a meme. This particular bit of hell drop of Internet heaven says I have to tell you 7 things about myself:

Here is how it works:

  1. Link to the person that tagged you and post the rules on your blog.
  2. Share 7 random and/or weird things about yourself.
  3. Tag 7 random people at the end of your post and include links to their blogs.
  4. Let each person know that they have been tagged by leaving a comment on their blog.

On with the show, this is iiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiitttttt….


Okay, first let me start off by saying that you may not know these things about me, but someone, somewhere does.

  1. I detest other people’s hair. I don’t care where it is on their body, if it touches me, I’m grossed out. Especially arm hair.
  2. I have an extremely low opinion of people who willfully listen to stuff like 50Cents, Celine Dion or Fiona Apple. I could think you’re the most brilliant person ever, but if you say, “Hey, that new ThirdEyeBlind record was good.” You’ve dropped down to belly lint in my opinion. I am that shallow.
  3. Sometimes I pretend to be a tourist from another country in my city just so I won’t have to talk to people. I even have a fake accent. To add to this, I’ll also pretend to be partially deaf or illiterate so I won’t have to talk to people who live in Los Angeles.
  4. I’m completely obsessed with my arms in the summer time. They are smokin’. I have the sexiest arms ever. Note, that I don’t think it. I know it. I should post a pic, but they’d wind up on some armporn site and I’ll never be able to look my kids in the eye.
  5. I’m kind of pissed off that Sen. Obama and Sen. Clinton are running for president. Since 1983, I always said that I’d run for president for 2008. I’ll be old enough to be president by the time I’m inaugurated next Jan. I was going to be the Two-fer President; a black female. Thunder-stealers that’s what they are! And come on, I’d be much more interesting in the debates.
  6. My second toe on both feet is as long as my pinky finger. So either I have exceptionally long second toes, or exceptionally stumped pinkies. It’s a glass half full/empty thing some days. But I’ve always got my arms.
  7. I love filling out forms. I fill out forms just for the sake of filling out forms. It doesn’t matter what kind; online, those cards in magazines, the back of bills…I’ll fill them out.
  8. I want to recall Arnold just on the raised car registration fee alone, because that was his “reason” for wanting Gray Davis out. I can’t possible fuck-up California more than this asswipe did and if I do, so what…recall my ass.

So, I think that’s 7 and I only managed to cuss once, so that’s good for me. Yay! Now, who will I blogabuse with this meme? Maybe Sandy? No, she’s such a good sport she basically did this twice! Ooh. Shayera‘s getting tagged. She started it. And she’s not going to weasel out of with “moving” as an excuse. I’m on to her.

Hmmmm…I’m going to tag Jameil, because I’d be interested in learning more. Which means, that I should probably hit up Sha Boogie, because she makes me laugh. Ruth gets hit because she went away and I didn’t. The Tempest gets a nod too…BTW sweetnesses, we’re supposed to be heading to KC in mid-Feb.

The Prisoner’s Wife will get tagged just give her something easy to do. Gaaah…one more. I think I’ll tag either the entire StreetProphet‘s community or the paid-to-be-hipsters at LAist

Do I really have to post to all those sites?

Aw man, I gotta do everything!